I recently shared how I gained some perspective on rushing around to kids’ activities.
At the end of that post, I promised that I would be back to share my strategy on arriving calm and on time.
It is embarrassingly simple, but life changing for me just the same.
The answer for me: STOP trying to do just one more thing before I leave the house.
Let’s start with some background. I suspect we are a bit a like, so tell me if any of this sounds familiar.
I am a mom. I have four kids, clients I serve as a CPA, a blog I am working to build, a house, pets, and everything that comes with a busy life. My to do list is really long, and I love to cross things off of my list. I have learned to take advantage of those 2 minutes here and there to get just one more thing done.
Usually, this is a pretty smart strategy. It generally keeps me off random internet distractions and makes me focus on getting just a little bit more done with my spare time while I am waiting for Will to find his shoes or Max to grab his hat or Steve to finish his coffee so we can leave. I can sneak in a quick sweep of the floor, wipe down the counters, put the dishes in the dishwasher or change a load of laundry in that time.
But, after one too many rushed van rides to (name your event here), I realized that I was letting this push to get just one more thing done push me into rushing all. the. time.
I was being my own worst enemy. All of the satisfaction that I was getting from crossing one more item off of my to-do list was lost (and then some) when I was racing to get somewhere just a few minutes just under the wire.
So I made a pact with myself. To stop the madness. To be done. To say enough.
Now I do what I need to do, but I STOP whatever I am doing with enough time to herd everyone (without ranting about being late or being slow) out the door with time to spare.
I have been doing this for two months now. And the result?
Ahhhh. Blessed peace.
It feels great! Did you know that movie theatres have the lights ON before a movie starts? Wow – it is so much easier to find our seats and go back for a snack, rather than falling all over myself in the dark trying to get to an open seat with my coat, food, drinks and kids in tow.
Church is lovely and quiet a few minutes before service starts. Who knew? It is very restful and nourishing to the soul.
When I miss a turn heading to a client, I am not panicked at the idea of being late; I have that time built in to turn around and get there.
When I am early, I use my phone to check in on my email, check a blog post or play Words with Friends. Sometimes I even just sit still and enjoy the calm for a minute before the next activity begins.
Cue the bright lights and angels singing.